Natural Attraction Triggers
“It’s not what you do, it’s what you ARE that defines your relationship with your partner.”
There is a reason why an attractive man magnetically pulls the eyes of MOST women, and an unattractive one rather repels them.
When one man finds a woman irresistibly sexy, there is a good chance that many other men will find that too.
The interesting thing about attraction is that it is not an individual preference or a choice for someone. When you find a person attractive, you can tell your brain not to be (for moral reasons or, say, loyalty to your spouse, you might find yourself restricted to feel drawn to someone else), but it will never work - you will still be attracted.
There are, in fact, natural attraction switches in each one of us, which are defined by the genetic program we run. Hence, these triggers are very different between men and women, but pretty much the same within one gender.
The great news about this is that once you know about these attraction triggers, and you learn how to apply them, you can make them work for you. People, including your spouse, will feel more attracted to you. Not their choice, nothing they can do about it.
Nature has designed it, that we are attracted to a partner who fulfills certain criteria that is beneficial for our individual mating success. Successful mating being defined as creating offspring which by themselves survive as long as possible and are interesting enough to attract high-quality partners of the opposite sex on their own later on in order to assure genetic survival and prosperity.
Considering our biological differences (see But Men And Women Are Different), men and women need to be attracted to a different set of qualities.
Female Attraction Switches:
Since it is extremely beneficial for the creation of descendants from a female perspective, when a man is able to supply the resources, women are attracted to wealth (even if they are generating their own independent income, and even if they have learned to deny it in the so called developed cultures of today.)
Women are also attracted to the strength, confidence and courage as these stand for the power to protect her and her child from predators or other environmental dangers. Strength and courage furthermore indicate the power to catch large animals quicker and more successfully and therefore provide better.
Hence, women are also attracted to body features, which suggest these qualities. Broad shoulders, strong thighs, square shaped jaws,... Generally, a taller and more muscular body and a high degree of physical fitness and agility.
Strong leadership skills are another quality that is of huge interest for a woman. Especially when a man can reliably show that he is respected and followed by a crowd of other powerful men (e.g. by occupying a high position in a large corporation or community). It demonstrates to her that he not only has strong protection and provision power by himself alone, but that he can also command the strength of others should it be required.
The desire for men with these qualities, which is often summed up as social status, is woven into a woman’s genetic program. It has not changed since prehistoric times and never will, because, although we might have technically advanced and continue to do so, but the genetic interest is still the same.
Male Attraction Switches:
A man, on the other hand, does not require these features in a woman. He has them already (or is supposed to have them.) and he needs different qualities in a partner to assure his genetic future.
A man is generally attracted by quick mating success. Youth and health are characteristics, which benefit this strategy and both are easily identifiable by a woman’s physical appearance. Therefore, men are drawn to a woman’s looks.
Men are also attracted to a woman’s independence in terms of her ability to survive. It would indicate to him that she can “stand on her own feet” and that the common offspring would be well taken care of, should he not be around (e.g. out hunting or fighting.)
Therefore, men find longer legs sexy as it would show him that she can grab the child and outrun any threat in case of an emergency. (Men rate women in high heels generally as more confident.)
A man is also ready to “pay a premium” for a woman who has her guard high up, which means she is hard-to-get (sexually, of course), as it would give him a higher assurance that the offspring they generate together is actually his; an issue that no woman ever needs to worry about, but is of critical importance to a man.
Anything a woman can demonstrate to a man that falls into these categories will make her inevitably more attractive. Nothing a man can do about that. She can, for instance, wear high heels (crucial!), naturally looking makeup, and generally be extremely meticulous when it comes to her physical shape.
Both sides are constantly on the outlook for indicators which they might find beneficial for their respective strategy. We all do so with every person of the opposite sex, no matter if one is married, living in a committed relationship or not. Our genes make us and, again, if we find someone attractive, interesting and sexy is not subject to our personal decision or control.
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